Despite having travelled the world for years and meeting thousands of people, visiting 165 countries and over 900 cities, I never found the one thing we all want in life – Love. Why is love so hard to find? Whether you are on the move or not, every is a struggle to find the right girl for me.
But I have had no shortage of flings, relationships and dates but everything went wrong every time, so I need to learn from my mistakes and also it takes me time to trust others. This is why I also recently used an online dating site to see if it would help me out. Indeed I found that by checking out someone’s profile online in advance, you can be a bit safer and happier ahead of the meeting as there is less chance of encountering dishonesty. We all know people put up old photos, make themselves look thinner and generally make themselves sound and look better than they are. Some of this can be false but we can thankfully now suss this out on social media in advance. Only those who steer clear of social media can really tell lies and fool their potential dates.
Other options I used on my travels to try and find love were these:
Hostel Dorm Rooms
I spent a lot of time sleeping in hostel dorms, this way I got to meet a lot of cool people, spending nights and days with them – I often called them 24 hour friends.
Speed Dating Events
I headed to a few of these Speed Dating nights. Basically you are bunged into a room with 15 girls and 15 guys and you get 3 minutes with each girl to try and impress them. Afterwards you tick boxes of which girls you liked. Then, if you matched you can meet up outside the event.
Dating Websites
From time to time I like to sign up and join a dating site to give me a more passive way to meet girls without getting too serious too early. You get time and opportunity to chat to girls online long before you decide to meet them.
Mingling in Bars, Cafes and Pubs
The good old fashioned technique of chatting up girls in bars, pubs and clubs still holds true. It’s a good way to meet girls face to face and try and impress them on the first impression. Invite them to your table for a coffee or a beer and strike up an interesting conversation.
Tinder
Finally of course, there is always Tinder which is a modern app making it easy to meet girls where you are. You simpyl create an account that is linked to Facebook and swipe right for like and left for a rejection. If the girl matches with you, then you can write to them. If not, then you can’t.
Overall though, I am still waiting for the true love of my life to walk right in. Who knows when…
